It’s 2014 & Interracial Dating Is Still A Problem…That’s NOT Okay!
When did interracial dating become such a big deal? Maybe I’ve been living in a box, but to me it’s nothing peculiar and I can only hope you feel the same way. If not, my aim is to change your mind by the time your done reading this.
I took part in a very digital Twitter chat regarding a film titled, “The Swirl,” which tackles societal and cultural issues relating to interracial dating, posing the question: “Is it the new trend or is it still taboo?’ Well?
It’s 2014, which almost tricks the majority of us into thinking that nobody’s got a problem with interracial dating, but the truth of the matter is that a handful of you reading this will have a problem dating outside your race and another slew of you just never have dated outside your race.
With that being said, below are a few misconceptions about interracial dating that I’d like to nip in the bud, immediately.
My family won’t allow it. We hear this often, and while I’m not challenging those who make this bold statement I do encourage therapy. It doesn’t have to be an expensive session with the world’s best therapist, but rather one between you, mom and dad. Traditional families, such as my mom, don’t accept what they don’t know. It’s 2014! Will they really disown you? Forever? Maybe it’s time to break tradition.
Interracial means Black and White. Nope, it actually doesn’t. By definition, interracial is the mixing of different racial groups through marriage, cohabitation, sexual relations or procreation. That means Black and White, Black and Asian, Hispanic and White, Hispanic and Asian and the list goes on and on.
Mixed babies are beautiful by default. I’m not saying that interracial babies are not beautiful. It’s just an ignorant thing to say. Same race babies are also beautiful, but no one walks around saying they are. Instead we (society) has instilled a false notion that mixed babies are, automatically, the prettiest things in the world. Is that the type of belief we want our kids living by? I think not. Let us teach our daughters and sons differently.
It’s worse when a white woman dates a black man than when a white man dates a white woman. Can somebody please explain why society seems to hate the idea of a White woman dating a Black man, yet seem so much more okay with a White man dating a Black woman? White girls get hated on, but the White boys get dapped. In the words of Ed Lover, “C’mon Son!”
All Black men have big…“egos.” For lack of a better word it’s the one we’ll run with, but you all get the point. I hate to burst your bubble, but “egos” come in all shapes and sizes for each and every race.
Race, color, shape and size have nothing to do with love. Love has to do with love. No worries, I don’t intend to get sappy, but don’t let the stereotypes fool you. We are all individuals despite our cultural background.
I support interracial dating.