Posted June 9, 2014 by Marie-D in ThatsEnuff

Iyanla Fixing Life Of Couple Where Husband Proposed 20 Years Ago As Joke

Iyanla Vanzant visits Pennsylvania husband whose double life is threatening his marriage of 20 years with high school sweetheart.

David is a father, husband and former pastor who has been married with Jennifer for 20 years. Jennifer writes Iyanla seeking help. She desperately wants to save the marriage, but David has been cheating, hiding a pornography addiction and visiting online. He also has a secret that he has been keeping from his wife. David says that the day the two got engaged was the day his marriage ended, because it was something he never seriously wanted.

Iyanla tells David that he has to be honest not only with himself, but with his wife as well. In the video below from “Iyanla: Fix My Life,”, Iyanla sits with the estrange couple as he reveal his secret.


“So, Mr. David,” Iyanla begins. “What is it you need to communicate to Ms. Jennifer for moving forward?”

“I didn’t want to be married,” he tells Jennifer. “At the time that I asked…”

“You know the manner in which I asked [you to marry me]? You’re taking it seriously. I didn’t mean it jokingly, but I was joking. I was lying,” he says. “I accepted your ‘yes’ as a means of feeling normal.”

“My choices to remain in a marriage that I knew I didn’t want, it does not diminish that I care. It doesn’t diminish that I love you. Because I do,” he says. “I do want you to be my friend.”