5 Signs It’s Time To Transition Out Of Your ‘RelatioNOTship’
So just about everyone has been in a ‘situationship’ or better yet the ‘relatioNOTship’ so we felt this would be perfect for those that are contemplating if the ‘whatevership’ is right for them.
As the thought catalog graciously pointed out many of us twenty-something year olds find ourselves thinking of “him” or “her”, there might not necessarily be an actually him or her but that idea of them crosses out minds. Blame it on the facebook newsfeeds flooded with your friend “just got engaged” and ultrasound update post that have you questioning “Well I’m I F**kning up”.
However, with a crippling student loan debt hovering over your tax score as you try to understand the concept of staying out of debt while trying to facilitate some kind of stable career. You find yourself asking, how exactly am I supposed to foster a new relationship when I don’t know what city I’m going to live in six months from now?
Which somehow ends up giving birth to a temporary casual dating type of agreement know as a relatioNOTship; now the no strings attach idea might start out perfect but at some point it can leave one or both parties feeling unsatisfied and used.
So here are 5 signs it’s time to kiss the situation goodbye.
1. If the person continuously rejects exclusivity (either in public or private) for the purpose of being with other people without having to answer for it. If you aren’t okay with polygamy and your Not refuses to respect that, kick it to the curb.
2. If you feel used at any point. This should be a mutually beneficial and enjoyable experience between two consenting adults. The minute you feel cheapened or used by the other person, it’s time to re-evaluate.
3. If the person isn’t willing to take responsibility for their end of sex. A conversation needs to occur regarding birth control, STDs, and so forth. Regardless of who it’s coming from – whether the female won’t let her partner wear a condom or the male won’t get tested for STDs – something is wrong. Ladies, you shouldn’t ever pay for Plan B by yourself. End of story.
4. If one party wants to further things into a relationship and the other doesn’t. This never ends well. Once there is dissonance between the two, it will be impossible to return to the carefree “fun” ‘Notship that you got involved in this for in the first place.
5. Sadly, all good things must come to an end. (Except Nutella, and binge-watching the Hunger Games.) Hopefully, by the time you make it to your “transition” time period, you will part on a good note. Who knows? Maybe you’ll be able to pick things up and have a “real” relationship in the future. Never say never, and have a hell of a lot of fun while you can.