Review: “The Way You Love Me”- Can’t A Girl Be Sexy?
Every time a female unapologetically expresses her sexuality, she is punished by many women and even men.
Oddly, society’s view of a woman ‘in a perfect world,’ still does not include a woman that is proud of her body and a woman that isn’t afraid to speak on it. This observation was made this week after Keri Hilson debuted her new music for “The Way You Love Me.”
In the video, Keri performs in a way that we haven’t exactly seen from her before and it caused quite a frenzy.
The video is raunchy, steamy – hell, it’s damn near sex through the tv screen.
The video is also very humane. In the lyrics of the song, she honestly and bluntly expresses what she wants and on screen, she translates that into movement with the help of choreographer, Laurie Anne Gibson, who also directed the video.
Since its release, Keri ‘s gotten loads of backlash from fans and foes. Many have questioned her integrity and suggest that the sexually-charged video is a stunt for greater record sales.
In recent responses, Keri didn’t apologize for being sexy, sexual or unleashing her raging sexuality on screen. She basically admitted that she is a freak and she told Perez Hilton in an interview that while making the record she gathered with friends in a room and said all the things she assumed any girl would say. She told Perez, “One of the things you might yell is I don’t want to make love tonight. Just f–k me, please!”
Some people won’t admit it in those words, but the feelings are there.
It’s amazing though, that our society expects a woman to repress those raging emotions At All Times. It’s as though we only expect whores, hoes and prostitutes to have hormones, which is then a foggy view of a woman. A real woman is in fact a multitude of things, but simply put, she is a lady in the street, and a freak in the bed. Thank you Ludacris for making that clear.
In this video, Keri, shows off her freaky side, the side that you would only see in the bedroom, because that’s what her song is about. She dances and grinds in barely there leather gear as she sings the words “F-k, me F-k,” and “I got the kind of p-ssy that will keep you off the streets.”
Are the lyrics a little a explicit? Yes. Too much for the eyes and ears of your child? Yes. An example of how many women act behind closed doors? Absolutely. So it’s astounding that so many have criticized.
Remember that videos are for play. She wasn’t walking down the street screaming these words and humping cement.
In a recent interview, Rihanna addressed this same type of backlash that she has received. The Jamaica Gleaner reported Rihanna’s comment:
“People think I’m overly sexy. It bothers them for some reason. Girls don’t like to see other girls dressed sexy. It’s a little intimidating; I don’t mean that in a cocky way. There’s always going to be somebody not liking what you do. People have a lot of crazy opinions on things. Things I say, things I wear, places I go. It’s just stupid. I’m a 22-year-old human being. It’s fine for me to go to a club…People are hypocrites. They can’t wait to say something horrible. Most of them are unhappy with themselves. It’s women who are mad at other women. They should take a look at their own lives. A lot of people don’t have the guts to confront themselves.”
All of the things she said are harsh but relatively true and they apply to Keri’s situation. The difference is that Keri is a 27-year-old grown woman, and she doesn’t present herself in this fashion as an overall artist or person. And furthermore, “The Way You Love Me” is just a video-one video- that correlates to a fun and freaky song. It’s nothing we haven’t seen from Janet Jackson or Madonna in the ‘90s.
Is Keri no longer a woman worthy of respect because of this video?
Is her integrity, authenticy and work ethic in question? Is she classless?
Many have expressed via twitter, Yes, to each question, however I ask why? Why isn’t it okay for a female to be totally and completely sexual when she feels like it and still be classy?
One blog published a comment she made to Complex magazine in 2009. Keri said:
“I don’t want to be oversexed! I don’t want to sell sex, I want to sell music. I want to inspire others, I don’t want to be one of those people who’s always throwing their body at the masses.”
It’s interesting to read the quote and then compare this video but nothing’s really changed about her image. She simply wrote a song and made a video.
Even if it is a stunt for record sales, so what? Name one a female artist who isn’t admired by the masses for her beauty.
Keri is the same songwriter we met on a mainstream level in 2008. She is a great artist, performer and classy woman who just happens to be a real freak, versatile in her repertoire. We were just caught off guard.